We’re all grown here right?
When do you think it’s okay to have sex with someone you’re dating?
There are plenty who have it on the first date. Is there a unwritten rule that if you have sex on the first date it means you’re unworthy?? Or that you’re a hoe?
I personally think if you want to have sex, then do it. Regardless of when you do it, a man is going to call you a hoe if he wants to.
What are your thoughts
Hmm. I’ve been thinking. Is it really possible to have sex and not become emotionally attached?
Looking back at my past, there were times it was just sex and other times it turned into something bigger.
How do you avoid becoming attached? Where do people go wrong when it’s supposed to be no strings attached and it becomes the exact opposite?
Single until Married.
This has been on my mind for quite some time now. Around the same time that my relationship was ending, I began conversing with a guy I had met. I asked if he was single and he responded, “I’m single until I’m married”. That made me raise an eyebrow. I had never looked at in that way. I always looked at as you’re not single if you’re in a relationship with someone.
So I asked my fb and twitter friends if they agreed with that statement. To my surprise, everyone who answered agreed with it. LOL! They all said that you’re single until married because relationships aren’t recognized. There’s no option for “in a relationship” when they ask for your marital status. In that way, you are considered single until married. If you’re in a relationship, you’re not single. Aren’t you committed in a relationship? Does that count for anything?
I guess I kind of feel like that’s just an excuse for people to continue to act a fool. Especially men! For example, the guy that sparked this post actually came clean. After 2 months of getting to know him, again I asked “are you single?”. He responded “It’s complicated.She lives in another state.” WTF! Why wasn’t that said from the very beginning? It’s not like the question changed. I asked the exact same question, yet I got 2 different answers. Why?
*cues Chief Keef ‘I Don’t Like’*
And then the married men. Girrrrrrrl (or boy) they are special. I don’t understand. Why get married if you’re not going to be faithful to your wife. Why are you messaging the next woman on a daily basis? Where is your wife? How can you possibly have the time to do all these things? I feel bad for these women because a lot of them have no idea what he’s doing. It almost makes me not want to get married. Almost. I just hope that one day I will be lucky enough to have a husband will be faithful to me.
One last thing. Why are men who are involved so intrigued by single women?
What are your thoughts?
A few weeks ago, Up4dsn asked a question on twitter, the question was “What are your thoughts on interracial dating?” (something like that). I responded and said it that doesn’t bother me, it’s 2011 and people should be able to date anyone. Another user responded and said it did bother her (she’s black) and me and him both asked why. After she responded, this random guy tweets both her and I and says something like “maybe if you learned how to suck a dick right and take a nigga shopping we wouldn’t be dating white girls” and then he goes on to say “I bet money that neither one of you can deep throat my dick” WTF
Of course I responded to his ignorant ass. My response was that I NEVER said I had an issue with interracial dating and that he should try reading the whole conversation before he responds to other people about shit that had NOTHING to do with him. I also told I don’t NEED to learn how to do a damn thing, I have a man who is beyond satisfied with my skills *giggles*. But seriously, what kind of coke is this man on? What I got from his response is that he dates white girls because they deep throat and take him shopping…NEGRO!! If that’s your reason for dating a white girl, then you are all kinds of fucked up!
Perhaps, the problem isn’t black women, maybe the problem is YOU! Maybe she isn’t sucking you off because your dirty or just because you’re IGNORANT! That was made clear by his entire response. He sounds like a broke ass black man who can’t take care of himself so he relies on weak women to do it for him. I know plenty of black women who have no problem pleasing their man or buying things for him. The problem starts when the man expects all that from a woman but does not give her anything in return. What kind of shit is that?!
I was extremely pissed (so pissed that I blocked and reported him as spam lol) about his response to me, especially since it was completely unnecessary. Like I said, I never said I had an issue with dating outside of my race, nor do I have a problem with black men dating outside their race. It’s not my concern, It’s 2011 and people should be free to date whomever. What is the big damn deal?
Black people are always screaming about equality and injustices and this, that and the other but get their panties all bunched up because people want to date outside their race. Get over it! Instead of coming down on the black man for dating outside of his race, maybe you should go do the same. You both being black doesn’t mean that you’re meant to be together. You don’t know what GOD has planned for you. Open your mind, step outside the box and try it.
What are your thoughts on interracial dating? Is it wrong for a black man to date outside of his race? Are you threatened by white women who date black men? I need to know!
So, I know this title seems a bit strange, but it’s appropiate for what I’m about to say!
The latest thing on twitter was someone (a black person) making a comment saying that it was okay for white people to use the word nigga. Of course, a bunch of black folks got all up in their feelings and were angry about it. There were all kinds of comments about what they would to do to white people if they ever said it to them or if they heard them use it. There were comments about how it relates to slavery and blah blah blah.
I don’t get it. How can you, as a black person, be mad about someone else calling you a nigga when you walk around calling yourself and others that very same word…nigga! It’s like they think because they took the ‘er’ off the end that it makes it a differnt word. NO! It’s the same fucking word! Nigga and Nigger mean the same damn thing, a dergotory term for blacks. My question is, what’s the difference between them using it and you using it? I don’t see the damn difference. I feel like black people just need an excuse to do something hateful towards a white person.
I feel like if you don’t want white people walking around calling you a nigga, then you should erase the word from your vocabulary. I guess their parents never told them to lead by example. I don’t care if white people use it or not, it doesn’t bother me. Black people are more racist than they fail to realize and WE are our own worst enemy, not the white man.
Dear Black folk, lead by example and omit NIGGA from your vocabulary and show all people that it is a derogatory term, no matter who uses it!! LEAD BY EXAMPLE!! Until then, SHUT THE FUCK UP about others using the word. That is all!
The other day I was on twitter and a handful of people I follow all seemed to be talking about the same thing. A guy who was REALLY emotional about something that happened with him and a woman. I’m nosey (lol) so I took a peek at the guy’s timeline. It was very obvious that he was extremely hurt by whatever happened between him and this woman. He was tweeting that he had been crying, how hurt he was, and so on.
For some odd reason, these handful of people I follow all thought it was funny that this man was tweeting things like this. They teased this man like no other, telling him things like he should go kill himself, he’s acting like a woman, he’s psycho, insane, crazy and blah blah blah. Some of them even said that twitter is not the place for him to vent these kinds of feelings. I was seriously bothered by this!
Who are they to tell this man where he should and should not vent his feelings? We can all agree that sometimes we feel like certain things should be left off of social networking sites. But let’s be REAL here. Not everyone has someone who they can physically go and talk to about their problems, some of us do but not all us. For some, social networking is the only way to vent their feelings. If you feel like twitter isn’t the place, why tease this man because of how he feels? That’s really childish.
Especially because a few of the people who teased him have been in their feelings on twitter on more than one occasion. One in particular is always in her feelings about a damn radio show and arguing with other people on twitter about it or constantly complaining how people are subtweeting and calling her fat. I don’t remember pointing a finger and laughing at her and telling her to go kill herself. Just the week before this man’s emotional rant, one of the other people who teased him was tweeting how she didn’t find out her child’s father’s real name until AFTER she had the baby and how she was hurt by it and how she had recently found out her (the teaser) own father had all these kids that she didn’t know about and how sad she was. I don’t remember anyone pointing a finger and laughing at her either. That’s emotional, is it not?
How you can condemn someone for being emotional on a social networking when you have been guilty of it yourself? The pot calling the kettle black right? I think so. These are all adults with children who decided to gang up on this man and tease him about his feelings. I’m disgusted by it. I have made a joke or two about people? Of course I have, we’re all guilty of that. But never have I condemned someone for the way they are feeling and tweeted them things like ‘go kill yourself’. What kind of bullshit is that? You’re an adult and should act like one.
God forbid, when their kid gets older and someone does the same exact thing to him, I guarantee you they wouldn’t want someone to tell their child to go kill themselves. I guess what I’m trying to say is that people need to mind their fucking business, social networking site or not! Who are you to judge him and say that he’s less of a man because he had an emotional rant?! He’s a HUMAN just like the rest of us and men have feelings just like women! Some are open about theirs while others are not!
I’m so disgusted by these people and the way they acted. Karma is the biggest BITCH I know and I’m sure she’s coming back around for their asses.
You don’t have to agree with someone does on social networking site, but you don’t have to judge, tease or bully them because of it. It’s childish..PERIOD! People need to grow up and stop trying to fit into twitter cliques and realize that we are all HUMANS with FEELINGS and not everyone has the same resources as you to express their feelings!
So, umm…yeah I’m back on this Facebook shit!
In the past, people have always criticized me for saying how I feel via status updates. Why are you being emotional? Why are you putting your business out there? Wtf! Haven’t we all at one point in time used our social networks to be emotional? I know I have lol. I also realize that this may seem a little contradicting if you’ve read my latest post. But it really isn’t at all. That’s s different situation all together lol.
Today, a friend updated their status saying “I wish people would wear signs with real and fake on them instead of finding out when some bs happens”. Oh and let it be known that they NEVER have updates like this…NEVER! Now, I’ve know them for almost 5 years and we are VERY close. So I sent this person a text message, “hey, what’s wrong? everything ok?”
Immediately, the response is “wtf nothing is wrong. didn’t know I needed to explain myself every time I updated”. Now I’m pissed because there was absolutely no reason to respond like that, especially since said person is ALWAYS questioning me about my status updates!
So, it’s okay for them to constantly question me about my status but never shall I do the same when it comes to them. PLEASE!! That’s a double standard! Lead by example! Do unto others as you want done unto you! Need I say more? I think not! But I will lmao!
I’m just sick of people and these ridiculous, home grown, dumb ass double standards! So, for future reference, please miss me with the bullshit! Thank you 😉
P.S. I’ll just mind my damn business from now on lol
Recently on fb, one of my friends announced their engagement. Before this was announced, said person was always talking about how they were a screwed up individual and how they would always fail at everything. Let’s just say it was known to everyone how unhappy they were.
Weeks later, the engagement was announced. It was soon followed by a massive amount of updates about how happy they were, how in love they were, and this, that and the other. I don’t see anything wrong with wanting to be happy and all that, but are all the status updates really necessary?!
Do we need to know what’s going on with you every 5 minutes?! NO! At first, it didn’t bother me. Then it began to seem like they were trying to prove something to the world a.k.a. fb. Is that really necessary? HELL NO! Screw what everyone else is thinking. If you’re engaged and happy, then be engaged and happy!
I really don’t believe they are trying to prove their happiness to the world, I really think they are trying to prove it to themselves. Who are you fooling? NOT ME! Lol that is all for now 😉
So, I’m writing this because people have been pissing me off for the past 2 weeks or so! I’m frustrated, tired, angry and fed up with all the bullshit! For once in my life, I just want peace. I want people to leave me the fuck alone and let me be! Why is it so damn hard for people to do that? I know, it’s because people can’t mind their own fucking business. They always have something to say about things that don’t concern them. I’m just gonna make a list of things that have pissed me off and things that do piss me off. I’m at point where I just can’t take it anymore and I feel like going a DESTRUCTIVE rampage and this seems to be the only way to calm down.
1. Why is that ONLY my things seem to get misplaced?
2. If you touch MY stuff, please put it back where you got it from!
3. Don’t touch MY stuff without permission! It’s MINE!
4. It’s one thing to stand me up…but don’t stand my baby up! I don’t play those games! I refuse to let YOU or anyone else hurt his feelings. If you hurt him, it hurts me…and that is a fucking problem!
5. My son is EVERYTHING to me and I will bust a bitch upside their head for causing him any kind of hurt or pain. So PLEASE think twice before you hurt his feelings. Like Homey the Clown, I don’t play that shit!
6. You actually have the nerve to get mad that I didn’t answer my phone when you called. Are you fucking serious? Obviously it wasn’t that important, if it was you would have or should have left a message!!
7. You’re not that fucking important. I don’t NEED to answer the phone every time you call or respond to every single text you send. Get a fucking life already.
8. You must be fucking blind! You don’t look ANYTHING like my MAN so PLEASE don’t let that dumb shit escape your mouth ever again. Especially in public because I will clown your ass next time! I was nice about it this time around.
9. You know I have a MAN, yet you are still trying to get with me. Get over it! You knew I didn’t want you before I got into my relationship, so why the fuck would I want you now?! I’m HAPPY! Please move on so you can find happiness just as I did.
10. Don’t complain about what I do with MY money unless you are contributing to my finances! It’s none of your business what I do with MY money. If it bothers you that much, do something about it! Take care of ALL of my finances and then you will be able to have a say so in what I do. Until then, shut the fuck up!
11. For the people who stood us (Tyler and I) up on Halloween…fuck y’all! WORD! Thanks to my sister (who didn’t even have her own child) came with us and saved the day! Tyler was very upset cause he was all alone, but my sis saved the day! Thanks Sherayla! Or as Tyler would say, “Thank you Aunt Sherayla…you’re my friend too!”
12. We can do bad all by ourselves. If you’re not helping, you’re hurting. Think about that!
13. I’ve noticed with a few people, it’s out of sight, out of mind when it comes to Tyler. I’m not feeling that at all. So now we’re gonna be out of mind and out of sight even when we’re in sight. Kick rocks! My son doesn’t need your instability fucking with his emotional well-being now or ever!
14. We haven’t slept together since OUR child (now 4) was 6 weeks old. I haven’t ever tried to or given you a reason to think I wanted to. You don’t do ANYTHING for OUR son! You don’t even spend time with him. For some reason you think that I’m going to give you some cooh…negro PLEASE!! I told you 4 1/2 years ago that you would NEVER get this again and I MEANT it! And please believe me when I say that my man has absolutely NO reason to worry! Instead of trying to get in my jeans, you NEED to focus on spending time with OUR son! Until then, kick rocks!
15. I have said this before and I’m going to say it again. Please DON’T speak on things you know nothing about. You look like an ASS for doing so.
I’m done venting for now!