It seems that bitches love having my name in something. I barely go outside or deal with many people but somehow it’s always “Quiahna said this, Quiahna said that”…bitches must love me in an odd way!
If you’ve been following my blog or any of my social networking sites, then you know the story about my son and his father and his father’s family.
I developed a relationship with my son’s cousins mother (she has a baby by his dad’s brother). Jazz is a few years younger than me but we grew up in the same neighborhood. She was the only one from that side of Tyler’s dad’s family that seemed to care about anything concerning Tyler. She was one of th guests at Tyler’s birthday party in March. As you all know, Tyler is graduating pre-k this month and I invited to Jazz to come out to eat with us after the graduation.
Back in February, I got in contact with Tyler’s dad via phone and he told me “I can’t be there for Tyler or really talk to him like that because T be acting all crazy”. T is his ex-girlfriend/mother of his youngest son, who is 6 months younger than Tyler. After that, he cut his phone off and I no longer had contact with him. I spoke with Jazz about it and expressed my feelings to her. Since I couldn’t get in contact with him, I asked Jazz to tell him “fuck you and you never have to worry about me contacting you again. And don’t be concerned with anything Tyler is doing since you can’t be there or talk to him because of T”. Of course Jazz delivers the message and that’s when he called to try to curse me out. To get the full details on that, read What Just Happened?. Jazz then told me that he told T about it and T relayed to Jazz that she would confront me about it. This all happened in February.
Yesterday my niece had a softball game (she plays on an all-stars team) and of course Tyler and I were in attendance. T’s niece plays on the same team and she was in attendance also. She approached me and asked if she could talk to me for a minute. I said yes and we walked away from the field so we could talk. The first thing out of her mouth is “Jazz told me that you didn’t invite Deshaun (Tyler’s little brother) to Tyler’s birthday party because you don’t like me and you didn’t want us there. She also said that you’re telling people that I’m the reason Rasheen (Tyler’s father) doesn’t take care of Tyler and that you had been talking shit about me.” She then expressed that she isn’t the reason and she had nothing to do with that, and she also told me that her and I are in the same boat as far as him taking care of his children. He’s not there for Deshaun just like he isn’t there for Tyler. Just like Tyler doesn’t see that side of the family, neither does Deshaun.
I’m PISSED! I NEVER blamed T for Rasheen not being there for Tyler. That is completely Rasheen’s fault. He is the one who chose not to be there for him. Even if T was in his ear saying not to be there for Tyler, it would STILL be Rasheen’s fault because people make their own decisions no matter what anyone else has to say. I’m not the kind of woman who would blame her. I’m better than that and not once did I ever talk shit about T to Jazz, nor did I not invite Deshaun to Tyler’s party. It was important Tyler that his brother and sisters came to his party and I sent the invitation to his dad’s mom house and specifically said in the invitation “please pass this on so that the kids could be there because Tyler really wants them there”. T never got that message because just like me, she doesn’t deal with those fake ass people! I told T the truth and exactly what happened and let her know that I’m not and have never been that kind of person.
Luckily we were able to resolve the issue like adults. We were able to overcome the drama that Jazz caused! We exchanged numbers and I expressed to her how important it was to ME for Tyler to have a relationship with his brother. Tyler loves his siblings to death and that’s something I would NEVER take away from him. Even if I had a problem with T, which I don’t, I would put the bullshit aside because Tyler’s happiness is more important than anything. Tyler comes first in my life and that will never change!
In reference to the situation I updated my fb to say “Wow! People are so PHONY! Now I know who I can’t trust SMH I will NEVER understand why people want to cause UNNECESSARY drama!”. I don’t know if Jazz saw it but I have since deleted her from my page and I’m cutting all ties. I want nothing to do with her now. She obviously didn’t have Tyler’s best interests in mind. Just imagine if T wasn’t a woman about the situation, she could have walked up and punched me right in my face, I would have been caught off guard and I wouldn’t have know what the hell was going on! I never thought Jazz would do something like that, but I was wrong. As far as her coming to celebrate Tyler’s graduation, she can KISS MY ASS! I don’t want someone like that around me or my child. We don’t need or deserve people like that in our lives.
I’m happy that T and I were able to work it out like adults and get down to the truth and root of the problem. I have a lot of respect for T for handling the situation the way she did and despite all the bullshit, our boys WILL know each other and be able to establish a relationship with or without his father and his fake ass family!
Until next time…
